What is a Shadow Wedding?

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For most engaged couples, the wedding day is a day to exchange and begin building a life together. It is a day of celebration.

So what is a shadow wedding?

Well, at first glance, it sounds like kind of a bummer. It’s apparently a ceremony before the wedding ceremony. At this ceremony, the couple apparently says disparaging about the other person, to the other person. Since this is an actually ceremony, guests are invited. Couples then apparently admit to their neurosis and various shortcomings.

The shadow weddings are often held at night, in the dark. The dress is usually less-than-formal. Many of these ceremonies are often being handled by professionals in the wedding business. These shadow weddings are not necessarily cheap either. These ceremonies can actually cost a few thousand dollars.

It sounds like it is a bit of a “dare-to-be-different” activity for engaged couples who have a healthy amount of disposable income.

Do some reading about shadow weddings and you’ll quickly find yourself reading about shadow wedding ceremonies where the couples were saying some really mean-spirited things to one another. There a man telling his future bride that he is going to cheat on her and not tell her. Then this is the future bride telling the future groom that she will recent him when he inevitably becomes the reason whys she is being held back in her career.

Some people have nothing to say but positive things about the experience, using words like “liberating” and “cathartic” to describe the shadow wedding. To each his own. Or their own.

In the meantime, remember the fun that can be had at a traditional wedding. Plan ahead and enjoy a beautiful ceremony and lively reception at a beautiful spot like Seasons at the Tradition. A courteous and trained staff will help make your wedding memorable. No nasty words necessary.

Save During Summer Wedding Season

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Whether you are a bride, bridesmaid or just a simple guest, the wedding season can get expensive fast. And, as we all know, summer is a big part of wedding season. Sure, May and June are the “hot months” for couples to tie the knot, but July, August and September are still busy months for ceremonies.

So are there ways to attend or take part in wedding season weddings and still have money for other summer activities? Of course there are:

Set Your Budget. Here’s the deal with budgets: It’s hard to set a budget and even harder to stick to a budget. One way to do it is to set a budget as soon as you receive the wedding invitation. Sit down and set a budget for the bridal shower/bachelor party, the wedding gift, wedding attire and anything else tied to the actual ceremony (like transportation and lodging). Add any incidentals that are applicable and stick to your budget.

Clip Coupons. Speaking of budgets, keep an eye out for coupons that can help cut some of those costs. If you are not usually a coupon clipper, this will require more discipline to remember to save those coupons.

Save Early. Don’t try to save or spend all at once. And don’t max out your credit card. Put some money aside each month to defer some of the wedding costs.

Turn your wedding stay into a little R & R. If you do some homework, you’ll find that some hotels will honor the lower wedding rate for a few extra days. This means, if you can swing it, you can turn that wedding trip in a mini-vacation at an affordable price.

If you are single, go stag. If you have a serious boyfriend/girlfriend, that’s one thing. But just bringing a friend just for the sake of have a wedding date will get expensive. Go solo. You might find out you have more fun. Let’s just leave it at that.

Wedding Music to Your Ears

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There is no disputing that music is a huge part of a wedding. And yet, like so many other parts of wedding planning, choosing the music for your wedding festivities can be hectic and stressful.

There is no need for such fretting. You just need to have a wedding music game plan.

We know the right music can make your day of wedded bliss complete. The idea of the perfect music is what can lead to all that stress. There is the fear of choosing the wrong music option. Should there be a pianist? Should a harp make an appearance? Wedding band or wedding DJ?

Decide on Your Style

Sit down with your fiancée and decide on the music that best fits you both. It’s never a bad choice to go the traditional route and break out “Here Comes the Bride”. It’s classic and instantly recognizable. This is a decision that could be tied to the location of your wedding ceremony. If you are getting married in a big church, “Here Comes the Bride” played on a church organ will likely sound terrific.

If you are choosing a less-traditional wedding venue, you may want to go with a musical choice that’s more modern.

No matter what type of music you choose for your ceremony, location will matter. The size of the room will factor in how the music is heard.

Band or DJ?

Choosing between a wedding band or DJ often comes down to cost. Wedding bands tend to be more expensive. There are a few more people that will need to eat and the tip will likely be larger. The location of the reception will also be a factor. Some facilities will be too small for a band. Others have beautiful, spacious banquet rooms that can accommodate either a band or a DJ.

Money & Marriage

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There are many times when marriage and money have an uneasy relationship. We know that disagreements about finances and fundamental differences in how to manage money are among the top reasons cited for divorce.

This is why it’s important to think about money before you walk down the aisle. After all, marriage should be a lifelong partnership based on love, understanding and mutual respect. Talking openly about money before you get married will allow you and your future spouse to have a clear understanding on what the other person feels is truly important when it comes to money.

Don’t be a team divided when it comes to money. Just be a team.

A great way to practice prudent spending habits before you get hitched can come in how you approach your wedding. Are you both on the same page in terms of what you are spending and how that money will be allocated?

You can find great bargains when it comes time to get married. Off-season weddings can save you significant money. Deciding how to finance your wedding gives you a chance to openly with your fiancée about money, budgeting and spending.

Talking about money can also mean planning for the future while dealing with the present. What are the priorities right now? What can you afford to save? Talk to each other about your short-term expenses and your long-term savings goals. Make sure you both share a clear vision of the future in terms of saving. Also talk about the fact that there may a need for some flexibility as situations arise, but stay true to your long-term goals. Your partner needs to share this vision as well.

Combining money and accounts is also a great way to save money and usually leads to lower bank and transaction fees. It’s all part of teamwork.

Staying Cool during a Summer Wedding

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Summer is a great time to get married, but Mother Nature does have a tendency to turn up the heat.

Fear not, for you do not have to melt under the summer sun. It is possible to stay cool at a summer wedding.

It’s important to make the guests feel comfortable. If it is an outdoor ceremony, make sure all guests have bottled water and sunscreen. Everyone needs to drink plenty of water, especially children and older guests.

Ice. Make sure there is extra ice. That is all.

Be prepared. Get a handle on the weather forecast. Find out about humidity and the heat index forecast for the wedding day.

Timing is everything. An outdoor ceremony during the middle of the day in the summer might not be the best time to exchange those vows. See if you can schedule the outdoor ceremony for later in the afternoon or early in the evening. And don’t drag the ceremony out. This is not the type of service to have 11 readings by 14 different cousins. Keep it neat and brief and enjoy the natural beauty of an early evening in the summer. Added bonus: Think of the sunset pictures.

Think about ceremony location. Summer time is beach time. Think about holding those nuptials near the water or on a beach. It should be cooler. You can still hold an outdoor ceremony then take it inside for an indoor wedding reception. If you are holding an indoor wedding reception, check out the option of serving some summer-inspired cocktails.

Seasons at the Tradition wants you to have the perfect summer wedding ceremony. Our newly renovated banquet facility looks over the lush green wonder that is the Tradition Golf Club. You can also hold your outdoor summer ceremony on or terrace or on our gazebo.

Remember Those Wedding Details

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There are a lot of things to remember on your wedding day. This means there are a lot of things you could forget.

Don’t despair. Just make a list a day or two before the big day. Go over it not once but twice.

Remember a hanger. The bride will want a hanger for her wedding dress as she gets ready for the ceremony later in the day. A hanger works much better than a plastic bag or even a dress bag. It’s also not a bad idea for the groom to have a hanger for his coat.
Tell guests about reserved seating. If there is going to be reserved seating, it’s nice to give family and friends a little heads-up before the ceremony.
Remember your marriage license. Obviously, this should happen before your actual wedding ceremony, so include it on the list so you don’t forget all about it.
Eat early in the day. You will be busy on your wedding day, so you probably won’t have time for a leisurely lunch. Or lunch at all. Eat breakfast in the morning so you start the morning with energy. You’ll need it.
Designate a flower gatherer. At the end of the wedding and the reception, people will be heading home or off to hotel rooms (some may be staggering to hotel rooms). The bride and groom will be, well, you know. It’s a good idea to ask for a volunteer or two to gather and store any flowers that are still around at the end of the evening.
Get cash. You made need quite a bit of it for tipping purposes. Do this at least a day in advance. Trust us. You do not want to worry about finding a cash machine on your wedding day.
Check in with your wedding coordinator. If you are holding your reception at a restaurant or banquet facility, you may assigned a coordinator who will assist you once you arrive on the premises.

Better Posture Means Better Golf

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Good posture and a good golf swing go hand-in-hand. Think about your body and your motion during and after your golf swing. You may be doing something wrong without even realizing it.

Many golf pros and swing coaches will tell you that posture is crucial, the foundation for a good golf swing. Players should be able to perform a pelvic tilt. That’s pretty much just what it sounds like it is. This is about how you position your lower back or belt line during your golf swing. Good posture keeps your back from absorbing too much stress during your swing. The proper posture will have obvious benefits to you golf game, as it will allow you to have a consistent, balanced and powerful swing.

Your lower body should remain stable and allow your upper body to create the coil and torque needed to drive the golf ball. Proper posture will allow you to get the proper rotation on the ball.

Proper golf posture starts by setting your feet apart, about the width of your shoulders. You should tilt forward at the pelvis. Flex your knees slightly to allow your arms to hang straight down from your shoulders.

Golfers need to be able to bend their pelvises when striking the ball. Staying upright through the swing can produce inconsistent and frustrating results.

If you are wondering if your posture is correct, find yourself a full-length mirror. Face the mirror and place your hand on your lower stomach, pushing yourself over from the pelvis. Bend from the pelvis, then slightly bend at the knees. You want to have good balance between the pelvic bend and the knee bend.

Good posture will benefit you in golf and in life. Remember to keep balanced and practice your posture so you can make the most of your time spent on your favorite local golf course.

Smarter Eating Before Your Wedding Day

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Everyone wants to look great for their wedding. But if you decide it’s time for a diet to make sure your wedding dress is a perfect fit, it’s important to plan your eating the right way. Planning a wedding is already a stressful time. You want to make sure your health and nutrition do not suffer.

The following are tips from nutritionists on ways to eat better and feel lighter as you plan for the big day. It’s also very important to check with your physician before starting any kind of diet or weight-loss program.

• Keep your daily sodium intake to under 800 milligrams a day.
• Concentrate on low-carb foods.
• Make it a goal to drink 90 to 128 ounces of water per day.
• Speaking of water, start your day by drinking warm water with lemon juice. This will give a boost to your digestive system and help reduce any bloating.
• Make those snacks healthy. Trade in chocolate and a cookie for fruit. And add some protein to that mid-day snack. Nuts are a great option, especially Brazil nuts.
• Make some meal changes as well. Bread at lunch can leave you feeling sluggish in the afternoon. Try oat cakes instead.
• Don’t skip breakfast. It’s still the most important meal of the day. Choose low-fat breakfast items and try to keep the entire meal to about 300-350 calories. This will also help your body’s natural metabolism.
• Speaking of meals, don’t skip any. Trying to get things done on an empty stomach can cause blood sugar levels to drop. This can lead to headaches and fatigue, not a great combination when you are busy with wedding plans.
• Cut out the alcohol, at least until the reception. Alcohol usually means extra calories.

If you do want to carry your healthy eating habits right through your wedding, talk to the people at your wedding reception facility about any dietary needs or concerns you have.

Simple Tips to Enjoy Summer Golf

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Spring is still in the air and summer is looming on the horizon. If you think it’s too late to help improve your golf game, think again. There is still time to get your gear and your head ready for a great summer of golf.

There are some simple golf tips and ideas you can put to good use to get more positive results and enjoyment from the game.

Make sure your legs are ready for the golf season. Remember, your legs and hips are doing a lot of work during your golf swing. This is why stretching before your golf round (or session at the driving range) is probably a good idea. If you are unsure if you are doing the right thing for your legs, check with your doctor.

Clean your clubs. It may seem like a little thing, but you want to make sure you are hitting the links with clean clubs. Make sure your club faces are clean. It’s important that your grips are clean, not just for your game but for safety. Take a towel with some lukewarm water and thoroughly wash your grips.

Stay hydrated when you are on the course. We’re not talking about beer either. That won’t help with dehydration in the hot air. Stick to water while playing. In fact, it’s a good idea to drink water an hour or two before you actually hit the links. Keep the water going all the way through to the 18th hole. You’ll stay hydrated and have more energy.

Remember the shades and the sunscreen. Protection from the summer sun will keep you happy when you get off the course.

Also, do your homework. Getting away for a round of golf is not always easy. Choose a facility that works to make your day on the links is a great one.

Spring Wedding Fashion for Men

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If you are a guest at a spring wedding, finding the right thing to wear can be tough. There always seems to be plenty of articles about spring fashion for women, but not much for men.

The good news is, when it comes to spring wedding fashion, men can get away with a lot and still look good. You’ll still need a suit, a button-down dress shirt, a tie and some decent dress shoes. But you can wear something other than that navy blue “go to” suit that is hanging in your closet. That’s a “good for any occasion” suit. Don’t be afraid to get a little creative with your spring wedding attire. Ever used a pocket square? Maybe this spring wedding is the perfect time to add it to your wardrobe. Give cuff links a try. If you think they are out of your price range, thing again. Good cuff links that look great can be found at affordable prices.

If you want to add a little color to your wedding attire, do it. Go for a suit in a lighter shade rather than the more traditional black and navy blue. If light colors are just not your thing, then sure, stay with the navy blue. It’s safe, slimming and always looks good. If you have your heart set on something else but just can’t get into lighter colors, consider something like burgundy. It’s darker but still brings some spring tones to the table.

When you break out the dress shirt it does not have to be just one solid color. Try a thin-striped shirt with a matching polka-dot try.

We understand you want to look good at the wedding ceremony, but you really want to look good at the reception. Be smart, but be creative. And if you are not sure if your look really works, bring a great gift.